I’m reading the book of Judges right now. I’m up to the life of Samson. First, I noticed the common sense Samson’s mother had. Manoah (Samson’s dad) was freaking out over seeing God in the flesh (angel of the LORD), but Mrs. Manoah looked at the situation logically: “If the Lord intended to kill us, why would he have accepted our burnt offering and spoken to us this way?” (my paraphrase of Judges 13:23). This reminded me that when people around me are panicked or anxious, a calm voice of reason can bring peace and relief.

When Manoah was talking with this angel of the LORD (before he realized who it was), he asked specifically, “What is your name?” The angel replied, “Why do you ask my name, since it is beyond understanding?” Isn’t this astounding? What kind of a Name can be beyond understanding?! Yet this reminds me of God calling Himself “I AM that I AM” to Moses. I always considered that as difficult to understand. Then, too, Revelation 19:11-16 lists several names of Jesus — “Faithful and True,” “The Word of God,” “King of kings and Lord of lords,” in addition to “a name written that no one knows except Himself” (CSB). God is SO AMAZING I can’t even know or comprehend His Name! Praise Him!

Also amazing is the truth that He knows my name! And cares to know me. What an honor.

Our whole family was able to be together over Christmas this past year. It was wonderful to be able to hang out together. In coming months and years, this will be increasingly more difficult, but we were thankful to have this time.

Cameron has left the nest in order to begin his adulting, which isn’t always so fun. He has begun his semester of EMT training in Iowa. Please keep him in your prayers as he manages school work, his part-time job, and preparing for a medical missions trip to Papua New Guinea this summer. He has had some car problems, too.

Norman continues to keep busy, whether it’s to keep the sidewalks clear of the dumping of snow we got in January or keeping our older cars in running order. He has been sharing his vision for disciple-making with the Council of Six of the WARBC (Wisconsin Association of Regular Baptist Churches). We are praying for God to do more than we can ask or imagine! There is so much work to be done to reach the lost and disciple the believers to do the work of the ministry.

As for me, I continue to take Mom to doctor appointments, keep up with the housework and meals, spend time with our last child at home, and serve in our local church. I also try to encourage our college kids to hang in there and go in faith in the Lord. Prayer has been more on my agenda since the kids are “on their own”!

from Psalm 84 (CSB)

There are five ways to be happy in this psalm! The life of a caregiver doesn’t lend itself to happiness, necessarily. It can be described in many less-than-desirable terms! But here we see God’s advice on how to be happy, no matter what.

1. “How happy are those who reside in your house.” (Ps. 84:4a)

Relishing in God’s nearness every day is possible for everyone! In the time of the psalm-writer, “God’s house” was probably the Temple, the place where God’s glory and “presence” was signified. But since the Messiah came, everything changed. Now God makes His dwelling inside His family of believers. My body is His Temple now! He is always with me. His Holy Spirit indwells me and never leaves me. Focusing on the truth of God’s ever-present nearness should bring me much joy and happiness. He sees what I’m facing today. He knows how I’m feeling. He understands my frustrations and challenges, as well as my sinful tendencies and responses. He is ready to forgive and cleanse me from my poor reactions whenever I confess my failings to Him.

2. “How happy are those who praise you continually.” (Ps. 84:4b)

This sounds so easy! Yet I am so ready to be negative and critical, to focus on all the challenges instead of my Savior’s beautiful face. My elderly parent is not like she used to be. She’s changed and is changing to be less capable than I remember. I need to learn to interact with her differently than I have for decades. Yet how my attitude changes when I focus on God and what He’s doing! There are so may things to be grateful for if I’ll only think on them. God brings little blessings every single day. If I’m not looking, I may miss them! An encouraging text from a friend, saying she’s praying for me; a Bible verse that lifts my focus to the Lord; a hug from an elderly woman with dementia; being able to encourage someone else; a bright sunny day; a beautiful snowfall; safety in a near-accident; a good health report; a reminder of all God has done to save me from my sins and restore a relationship with Him – there are so many reasons to praise God every day!

3. “Happy are the people whose strength is in you.” (Ps. 84:5a)

The longer I care for my elderly mother, the more I see how weak my own strength is! My capacity to endure has its limits, but God’s strength never ends. He may choose to give me the endurance to face life, or He may bring someone else alongside me to help out at just the right time. I can’t do it all on my own. I must be walking closely with the Lord every day, finding my strength in Him. Then I can happily serve others over and over again.

4. “Happy are the people whose hearts are set on pilgrimage.” (Ps. 84:5b)

The life is not the end goal. I’m on a journey to eternal life! One day, all the troubles of this world will be over. My trials and suffering are temporary. What a blessing to remember! Whatever ailment, struggle, worry, or fear I have now, it will not bother me one iota in eternity! This verse reminds me of those faithful saints in Hebrews 11:13-16, who persevered, seeing the promised kingdom through eyes of faith. They realized they were “foreigners and temporary residents on the earth” (v. 13). Caring for an elderly person can seem like a life-long commitment. We don’t know when the end of that journey will come. But it won’t last for eternity!

5. “Happy is the person who trusts in you, LORD of Armies!” (Ps. 84:12)

So much in life comes down to trust. Who will I believe? Who can I truly depend on? If I rely on popular wisdom, I won’t be trusting in the Lord. He will always guide me in His right path, the path toward blessing, peace, and true joy. I want to put all my eggs in His basket, trusting that the outcome He promises will come to pass. When I trust in the Lord, I can release my fears and anxieties and simply rest in His care for me.

I don’t know where you are in your journey of faith or what you’re struggling with today. But God has made it possible for His children to be happy despite great odds. Let’s face this day with His promises from Psalm 84, happy in His presence, with hearts full of His praise, bolstered by His strength, remembering this life is short, and trusting in the LORD of Lords!

This picture doesn’t seem life-changing. But to my mother, it changed the next month of her life! (And then some!) Mom was doing something in the kitchen, turned to walk the other direction, and stumbled over this cat. She fell hard, broke her hip, and ended up having a partial hip replacement that same day! Three days in the hospital were followed by twenty days in a rehab facility. This all started on September 5th — the Beginning of The Fall.

Here’s the culprit! Cute as he is, he could no longer co-exist with my mom. My sister has taken “Big Cat” and his brother “Little Cat” home with her. The cat sustained no injury!

Melodie and Fritz went to visit Grandma at the rehab place. It was beautiful fall weather!

In other news, I (Susan) was able to get Chloe settled in to college. Her roommate is an MK (Missionary’s Kid) from Africa, so they have much in common.

We had a few things to do to prepare for Grandma to return home from rehab. Norman replaced the back porch steps, and Melodie helped sand and stain extra railings.

We finally have been able to use the office space we’ve rented in the building next door! Just in time for Cameron to begin his fall semester of college online. A pastor friend of Norman’s is coming this week to help build some walls to create a couple rooms, one of which will contain Norman’s office and recording studio (for podcasts).

We are amazed at God’s timing of events! Just three weeks after I finished my CNA class, Mom fell. I was instantly available to help out in a variety of ways with ease. It would have been much more stressful if I hadn’t been through that course! I was there in the room with Mom when she fell and could call the ambulance just minutes afterward. I was here in Wisconsin to visit her daily at the hospital and rehab center, not unavailable in Japan. When Mom came home, she had certain restrictions in place, including the one that required her to have assistance every time she walked anywhere. I had been trained to do this, and I could follow her around for five days. Home therapy began coming last week, and she was given the okay to walk without assistance (except with a walker). This was a huge relief for both of us!

I’m grateful to my other siblings who visited, gave me a break from time to time, covered Mom’s bill paying needs, and saw to other details. This is what family looks like!

Going through this experience has opened my eyes to the needs of other caregivers. Now I know how even a couple hours’ break to just get away, having Mom cared for in my absence, makes such a huge difference! There are many caregivers out there! They are all around us! I never paid them much attention, but now I’m part of that club. Let’s do what we can to support and encourage others on this journey!

Sometimes life seems to fly past. Then there are weeks that seem to inch by. The summer has flown past for us. It’s hard to believe the end of August is in sight. Melodie is living in disbelief that she may need to wear a hat to walk the dog on August mornings in Wisconsin! Unheard of in southern Japan! (I’m not complaining!)

Here are a few updates from the last month or two:

NORMAN has scheduled meetings with our supporting churches into October. He has a full calendar of events that makes my head spin. Somehow he still finds time to savor His Savior, exercise daily, and spend time with his wife!

SUSAN — I completed my CNA course today! I’m planning to set up a time to take the state certification test. I enjoyed working at the clinical site, a nursing home nearby. Meeting and helping the residents was the highlight for me.

CHLOE is in mid-tour now. She’s had concerts in Wisconsin, Iowa, and Kansas. She’ll be moving into a college dorm this month to begin her first experience of in-person college classes! Listen to her dad interview her on www.runwithhorses.net.

CAMERON came back from Bolivia with lots of stories and testimonies of God at work. You can listen to an interview with him on www.runwithhorses.net. Cameron will be returning to Wisconsin to complete another semester of online college this fall.

MELODIE has completed her initial 10 hour requirement of driving time in order to take Behind the Wheel training. Following that, she will need more hours of practice before she can obtain her driver’s license. She’s also been busy designing her dad’s new business cards, his podcast logo, and designs for book covers. She’s getting to know several young women at the church we attend.

My MOM has enjoyed a couple mini-vacations with my sister. My mom has been going to the pool pretty faithfully for exercise and social interaction. She can meet people anywhere she goes! She faithfully shares her faith, too. We are all still adjusting to living with each other, making small changes over time.

Thank you for praying for each of us! We are so encouraged to hear your stories of how you have cared for your parents and loved ones, and to hear of how you stayed the course. We are truly blessed. We want to finish our race well, too, for the glory of the Lord.

Our pastor just spoke on James 1:12: “Blessed is the man who endures temptation (or trials); for when he has been approved, he will receive the crown of life which the Lord has promised to those who love Him” (NKJV).

We desire to endure to the end, faithfully serving the Lord wherever He leads. We love Him because He first loved us! Praise the name of Jesus!

These are the days of many new Beginnings. Norman is beginning a new ministry to churches in the Midwest, as well as to (or with) area pastors. Susan has begun training to learn the skills of a nursing assistant. Chloe is beginning her first music tour. Cameron is beginning his first music tour (with Chloe!) and embarking on his first mission trip. Melodie is a beginner driver (just obtained her driver’s permit). So much change is occurring in our family this month! Wow!

Norman has had some refreshing times, meeting with pastor friends. His desire is to help each one grow in Christ, to welcome them to help him on his own journey of spiritual growth and development, and to be a mentor to the younger men.

I (Susan) am a college student again! Well, at least for one class! I was pretty freaked out over my first exam last week. Having to complete it at home on my computer added to my stress. But it turned out okay! What I’m learning in class is immediately helpful and very practical as I anticipate needing some of these skills in the future with my mom. Learning about older people also causes me to think about my own aging process! I’m learning that age is only a number. Until God calls us home, He has a purpose for us here. I want to embrace that no matter what my physical condition.

Chloe and Cameron have their first concert tonight (6/25/23) in Adams, WI. They have around ten concerts lined up so far. Chloe seems a little nervous about this new adventure, especially traveling across the country, driving on the right side of the road! (She learned to drive in Japan — on the left side.)

Cameron is slightly nervous, too. He found out he will not be meeting up with the rest of his missions trip group until the end of the flight schedule. He leaves for Bolivia on July 6th and will return the 15th. We are praying that God will use this medical missions trip to clarify some things for his future work and ministry. He plans to take EMT training next spring.

Melodie just completed an online training course relating to driver’s ed. We are planning to begin letting her drive around a parking lot this coming week! Look out, Wisconsites! Here she comes!

Our family is still waiting to settle into our new living space. We have rented a huge room next door to Mom’s to be able to spread out, enjoy our dogs, and have room for Norman’s office, a recording studio (for Norman’s podcasts, mainly), and a place for kids to study. The landlord tells us renovations are almost completed.

Perhaps you are facing new beginnings, too. May we all keep the faith in the midst of uncertain times when patience is needed. It’s such a comfort to know that God knows the end from the beginning! Nothing takes Him by surprise. Our job is simply to follow Him in faith, leaning on His wisdom, not our own understanding (Prov. 3:5-6). Step by step, He walks together with us on this journey called Life.